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There are two things in particular that most people don't realise about abusers.
One, that they usually aren't the shadowy stranger lurking in dark corners, but are more likely to be nice guys with steady
jobs - often jobs that bring them in regular contact with children - or they're kind, helpful uncles, cousins or other people
from a family's circle. They're usually the last person you'd suspect.
Which brings me to Two, that abusers go out of their way to ensure that they're the last person you'd suspect. Before
actually abusing a child, they've usually done a lot of preparation work - searching out a vulnerable child, winning the trust
of the parents; in fact abusers around the world seem to follow a certain technique of "grooming" children for abuse.
I've noticed that it's similar to techniques used to tame animals, win their trust, teach them tricks, or intimidate them
into obedience.
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